Engagement (cousin) :p

I'm so proud of being a Malay because during engagement and wedding we will follow the culture and tradition that our ancestors had set up for us hundred of years ago. Our culture and tradition even sometimes doesn't make sense but since it is the language or you can say identity of each state (e.g in Malaysia), we as the youngster should follow the culture and tradition so that it can be preserved and maintain as our identity as a Malay. However, I believe in this modern and fast pace world, sometimes modification need to be made (but not until all the values gone).

All girls out there please don't get engaged on your own! Don't you know if you do the proper engagement, you will get two rings? One for the merisik and one for the engagement. Remember that. Heehee.

Yesterday I went for my cousin's engagement. She opted for a pink color theme. I believe many girls out there really like that color. Me also like that and to tell the truth I'm not a fan of that color before but as I grow older I kinda like it. Perhaps because the color is so wonderful and can make a girl looks really beautiful.

see she looks really lovely

All the hantaran (gifts) for the gentleman

From back and clockwise - towel, extra VIP bag, fruits, chocolate, sirih junjung, cookies and cake

All the hantaran for engagement should be as simple as this and doesn't cost much because it should not be a burden to both sides and also to make it more special for the wedding later.

The hantaran from both the lady and the gentleman

Both family looks very enthusiast to arrange them in one line like this. I thought the cameraman should be the one who request it. LOL

This is sirih junjung and it cost RM120

My mom said if we use a tepak sirih, it will be much cheaper because the tepak is rented and all the ingredients (?) in it can be obtained easily and with low cost. So yes we can save a lot and still follow our tradition. However whether to use tepak sirih or sirih junjung, its depend on your state. Like Perak, we use tepak sirih. Btw, this sirih junjung is from the gentleman side. Heehee.

Like the cookies above? you can buy those in Kuala Kangsar, Perak

Chocolates engraved with yours and your loved one names

Even proper engagement like this sounds good but if you are out of your budget, just go with the simpler one. Means you don't need to do the hantaran, the engagement garment, the pelamin and the tent. Just when the family come, discuss about the wedding and serve them the meal. Simple but meaningful.

Till then. Assalamualaikum.