Happy 3rd Anniversary to us!

It was our anniversary last Monday 30th November. Alhamdulillah we've been together for 3 years, going through marriage which has all that bittersweet.

During the first year of our marriage, life was quite tough, our salaries were small and we had quite a lot of commitment. The marriage loan, student loan, car loan and a few more. We also had to prepare for the birth of our newborn baby. Every month during my pregnancy period, my husband will set aside RM500 for the baby expenses. Me on the other hand, had to pay quite a bit of money which I loan from my mom. Alhamdulillah praise to Allah, we managed to handle everything smoothly.

Now in our 3rd year together, we managed to tick a few of our plan like register for Hajj even for my daughter and also bought a house. Alhamdulillah, eventhough they were small step but I am so grateful.

At this stage of my life now, I feel so blessed to have my husband and my daughter. Whenever I saw their face when they sleep I feel really grateful to Allah who has provided me with all this.

Of course, in marriage there were times where I felt down and unhappy too. It happened especially when I was tired. Example I wanted to do a lot of house chores but things like my daughter crying was slowing things down. I got mad and vent it out at my husband. Pushing him to do a lot of things when he himself was tired too. Guys has their limits too. And that cause us to fight. What I learn from this is if you feel tired, just take a break. Stop doing the house chores and attend to your family first.

Just chill. And as a woman, control what you said.

I think I am quite lucky to have him as my husband. He helps a lot with the house chores, take a good care of me and my daughter, I can talk with him about everything, respects my family and of course he always love me.

So for our anniversary, we took one day leave and went dating to Sogo. Haha. I know. But I wanted to buy a handbag. We had lobster for our lunch at Manhattan Fish and bought groceries afterwards. One week before, we also went dating. A very simple dating. Plan B for lunch and Mockingjay Part 2 for movie.

I hope as we grow old we will always make effort to have some time alone together holding hands and watch movies.

Happy anniversary sayang. I will always love you.

Till then, Assalamualaikum.

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Life Update

Its been a habit now writing only one post to update on what's going on with my life now. No more lengthy explanation on my experience. Hihi. Oops.

There were a lot of changes in our life this year. Such as we used to go for short holiday every 6 months i.e. on June and December but its not gonna happen this December since we will encounter quite a big crisis. Gulp.

Last June we went for holiday in Legoland but I think it was quite a big mistake. We purchased our ticket to Legoland Theme Park + Legoland Water Park + Hotel from groupon. We saved some money by purchasing the ticket, yes, but both Theme Park and Water park was on the same day. Sigh. And to top it off, the water park was closed for about an hour when we want to enter it due to some weather issue like lightning and thunder. Talk about wasting money and time. Ooops and Aisyah was not really well too that day.

Such a bad time and no luck.

That's the reason why I didn't write a lengthy post on it. Haha. Valid excuse okay!

ok, here one picture haha

Okay back to the crisis, as you all know, oil price is like half it SHOULD these days. And I as a consultant who depend on project from oil and gas company really affected by it. By really really really affected. Some of my colleagues were laid off last two months and I was safe. But I think very soon it will be my turn. It is important nowadays to assume worst case scenario, in this case ; I will be laid off too. So that's the reason we can't go for holiday this December. We need to save money for my future unemployment months. Sigh.

In fact we were planning to travel to Korea next February. It was one click away for me to buy the plane ticket. But thank goodness, I didn't click the next button because it is not reasonable to go for holiday in our future situation (haha, sounds so wrong here).

We also plan for second baby next year since I will be 29 years old next year. We can't afford to postpone the plan to another year because then the gap between my first child Aisyah and the second one will be too far. So I guess we need to prioritize this one. As usual having another child need money too. Baby stuffs and hospital bill. I know rezeki will come together but we still have to allocate some money for it. You know, effort and tawakkal. Hehe.

Okay, that's all for now.

Assalamulaikum.

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Constipation

Remember when I shared a story about my daughter and constipation? She's alright already. We went to see pediatrician and he prescribed a probiotic for her. My daughter consumed probiotic for almost 4 weeks and then she started showing some improvement. My husband and I thought it was due to my food intake too (she is still fully breastfeed) because on the third week, I started consume Qaseh Adinda (its a honey with mix of few things like date, habbatus sauda and a lot more). So I think both supplement help curing my daughter's constipation. Now, Alhamdulillah she pooped almost everyday.

Me, on the other hand still consume Qaseh Adinda. There was one time where I forgot to buy a new Qaseh Adinda and I ran out of stock. So I didn't consume Qaseh for almost 3 days. It was terrible, I experienced constipation and I think mine got hurt a bit down there. After I consumed Qaseh again, it was such a relieve. The constipation just gone. I also drink oat with milk too. Oat is a good source of fiber. So for those with constipation or digestion problem, try drink oat everyday.

Alright.

Just a quick update.

Bye, till then.

Assalamualaikum.

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Friday Rambling

Fasting month, Ramadhan is coming in 1 month. Have you qada' your missing fasting day yet? I don't, I have 3 days more. Today, Friday I push myself to fast too. It's a bit hard because yesterday I was fasting too and also because I have gastric and still breastfeed my baby.

Back when I was single, I didn't even had to sahur (eat before Subuh prayer time). But now, I just can't. I have to eat rice and drink milk. Aging is catching up on me, gulp.

Having said that, I just can't wait for Ramadhan. Last year Ramadhan, I decided to fully cover my aurat (you know, wear socks and loose fitting outfit). I hope this year Allah will grant my wish to be a better muslim and also be able to go to terawih (well I don't think I can since I have a toddler but who knows right).

Since I didn't update my blog for quite some time, here a bit of update about me.

I've been quite busy with work, we just have a new software. So its been quite a learning process and I kinda enjoying it. Aisyah has been wonderful, she learns a lot of new things and making a lot of faces. Whenever I think of Aisyah and my husband, I feel very blessed and really I just don't wish for anything else.

I also tried a new skincare last 2 weeks and it was so terrible. My face became so dry, got rash, redness and even peeled a lot. It was quite stressful since I need to go to work. I really avoided talking to people and of course avoided the sun. I was suppose stop using it when my skin became dry but due to the review and also from the owner of the skincare's advice, I continued using it for about 1 week and half. Urgghh, what a mistake. My skin is still recovering now. I was thinking to seek consultation from the doctor but after 3 days using my old cleanser and moisturiser, it got a lot better so I cancelled my intention to see the doctor. Alhamdulillah, it got better. I hope no one will try like me, stop using any harsh product on your face. Even your skin get better after using harsh skincare, trust me it won't be for long. Once you stop, your skin will become even worst than before.

Okay till then,

Assalamualaikum.

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Time

My time at home and during weekend run out so fast. Without knowing, the weekend already ended And the Monday starts again. The cycle went so quickly and my list of things to do was never finish. I always update my list of things to do and planned to settle them during the weekend but the time always beat me. Like today, I still have 5 pending item to do. They are simple tasks but getting to the process of doing them requires time which I don't have.

But I have learnt my lesson. I won't rush in doing this task (unless its extremely important) because if I do that, I will get stress and my family will be affected too. So until I can, I just enjoy every moment I have. If I can do it, I will do it. If I cant, then I will let it go. Life is too short to be stress too.

Okay, that's it for today.

Haha.

Bye, till then. Assalamualaikum.

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Aisyah and Constipation

My baby is having constipation right now. It is more than 2 months already. We are not sure what was the cause. Coincidentally, she got the constipation one week after discharged from the hospital due to fever. Here, some chronology of her case. 2 months ago, she took 5 days to p**p, so we gave her enema at her b**t to trigger the p**p to come out. Her p**p was like goat's p**p. Round and hard. Then we discovered there was blood when we was cleaning her b**t.  It triggered us to bring her to see a doctor, doctor A. Doc A prescribed lactulose with 2 m/l dosage three times a day before meal. The result? Nothing change. She still cried whenever she  p**p. In the meantime, we controlled her diet and no longer gave her cheese and provided a lot of fruits. We also changed the usual white rice into brown rice. We tried the 2 m/l for almost 2 weeks. 

Since there was no result, we brought her to a pediatrician, Doctor B. Doc B explained to us how the digestion system works, intestine, fiber and when we asked him was it due to her diet? He said no. Apparently it was not true. It's partially due to diet as well. Doc B prescribed lactulose with 4 m/l dosage three times a day. The first day after using that dosage, her p**p was no longer as hard as before and she didn't suffer so much when p**ping. But after that, it went like before. She took 3 to 4 days to p**p. We tried that dosage for almost a month and still not satisfied because she still cried whenever she p**p. 

So we bring her to another pediatrician, doctor C. Doc C explained to us about everything. The diet, how the intestine works and prescribed us with lactulose with 5 m/l dosage (medicine dose is given based on weight). Aisyah drinks 100% breast milk so it is definitely not the milk case. I never heard any case baby got constipation due to not suitable breast milk. In fact, she's been drinking breast milk even before that constipation case. The doctor also explained to us if this dosage does not work, he will prescribed her with other medicine which is the liquid paraffin. We tried lactulose with 5 m/l dosage for about 2 weeks and increased her fiber intake (a lot of fiber in the form of green vegetables in her porridge). And the result? Nothing change. With Doc C, we also suspected it was due to Aisyah psychological thinking. Maybe she scared to p**p? We are not sure. 

So yesterday, we met again with Doc C. He gave us the liquid paraffin with 7.5 m/l dosage two times a day after meal and also provided to us referral letter to hospital. If Aisyah still does not p**p normally at the end of this week, she needs to be referred to the hospital. Why? Because they can provide other medicine which was not in his clinic (I'm not sure what medicine), admitted to be observed (this is weird since I'm the one who need to cook her food, right?), X-ray or maybe referred to child psychologist. The child psychologist will persuade her to p**p normally. He also asked us whether after I gave birth, the doctor gave the thyroid test. He explained normally after gave birth, the doctor will give the result test but apparently most of the doctor seems to forget. They did the test but forget to provide the result. I am so not sure about this. Might need to check Aisyah's book again. However, based on Doc C's observation, Aisyah should not have thyroid problem since there is no abnormality in her skin and she is a cheerful baby.

Hopefully there is good result by using the liquid paraffin. Really wish we does not have to go to the hospital. Amin. If need to see a child psychologist, I totally agree. 

Okay, that's all. Till then, Assalamualaikum.

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Chaos

My life has been quite chaotic this past few weeks. I put my daughter to sleep around 930 pm, fell asleep together with her and woke up around 1 to 2 am. Why? Because I still got plenty of things to do. Iron clothes, kept Aisyah's food and mine in the fridge and a lot more. My husband was the same too. He woke up to hang clothes. Sigh. So tired. On top of it, I didn't have so much time to play with my daughter.

Viewing it positively, its a good opportunity to perform Solat Tahajjud but I don't know why, I've been so lazy. O Allah, please help me.

Its like time is running away from me. Time is rezeki too right? I definitely have done something wrong until Allah took away time from me.

Okay, gotta muhasabah myself now.

Till then, Assalamualaikum,

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How to perform at work?

So really, how to perform at work? Performs at work, contributes to the company and in the same time making sure you are not overdoing it. This issue has been on my mind since yesterday just because someone just got terminated without notice due to her role was redundant with her colleagues. Even though she was the champion of employee committee. See, even you do task that doesn't really relate to your work, the company just won't appreciate. What matters for consultant world is bill ability. 

Harsh truth, but that is how this world function. Well, I don't agree at all with such termination but unless I'm the top management, there's nothing I could have done differently.

So the real question now is how to perform at work so that the company see me differently and appreciate me and keep me (the most important thing now). 

I have so many answers for it like be excellent in work (not just do work), don't involve myself in disciplinary problem (like coming late, have 2 hours lunch, don't use company property for personal things etc.) and don't gossiping in the office. There are a lot more but only this three thing I can do. Haha. I could never go back late on normal days (when there is no urgent project). I am a firm believer in work-life balance. There are a lot of things outside of office that require my attention. So yeah, I go back sharp on time everyday. 

I hope more Malaysian are like this. I know most European are (well at least from what I heard and read). Optimized your working hours, have a wonderful life outside of office and come back to work the next day with energy. I don't think it is good to stay at the office longer than your working hours. Not only you are wasting your time, you also waste resources coming from the electric and water. 

Hihi. 

So overall, my post today is about love your life and your work but not your company.

Haha.

Okay, till then Assalamulaikum.

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Life in 2015

If you read my two previous posts, you will understand my routine is quite tight. I have no time to watch TV like I used to. I mean I do watch TV, but only a bit of it. Before this, I watched one show from the beginning until the end. I wonder how mom of three is doing it. There's a lot of work you know. I don't even cook but I still feel tired. Seriously no time to cook if you come back to house at 7pm. But I do believe there is mom out there who still cook even arrive at home at 7. Kudos to that mom!

My husband has been wonderful these days. After I started working with the new company, he has been helping me washing my daughter's bottle, he also hang the washed clothes and take care of my daughter while I do other house chores. I feel so grateful to have him in my life. Alhamdulillah. Two of my new year resolution are because of my husband. Previously I always complain and asked him to be quick in doing his task. How impatience I was. So we discussed and the conclusion is I need to be more positive and patience. That are my main goal this year. I want to be someone who is positive,and radiate positivity to other people. I also want to be more patience. Insyaallah.

I also want to excel in my job this year. I hope I can be a good engineer and catch up quickly to a lot of new things that I need to learn. I am currently a HSE Engineer so my work is mainly doing Quantitative Risk Assessment (QRA) and Control of Industrial Major Accident Hazard Report (CIMAH). Since working with the new company, I also need to learn doing other formal safety assessment and proposal. Amin, insyaallah I can quickly learn all these. 

Other than that, I also want to save more money in the bank. It really was difficult for me before since the commitment was almost 70% of my income. So the remaining balance was just enough for my daily meal and petrol. But after getting this new job, alhamdulillah I believe I am able to save quite a lot in the saving account. But still, need to control my lust in buying clothes. Ooops hihi. 

Last but not least, I also want to closely monitoring my baby's development. I don't think I've been monitoring her development. She is now 1 year 1 month and 1 week old. Haha. But she still can't walk. I think she is scared because she can walk from one end of sofa to another end. We definitely need to train her to walk. Hihi.

Ok till then. Assalamulaikum. 

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My New Routine

It is almost one month since I'm working with the new company. This time I'm working with bigger company compared to before. A lot of things have changed especially in administration part. Now I have timesheet system, department meeting, annual dinner and a lot more. I also meet many types of people. It is a very good opportunity to work here I must say. Okay enough with the introduction.

In this post, I just want to share how my routine has changed after I got this job. And of course, also the fact that my daughter is now a toddler. She just turned one on 26th November 2014. So she is very curious of things that happening around her, throw tantrum if we don't give her what she wants and  is very clingy to me. Apparently, separation anxiety is what happening to her. So kesian.

So below is my routine or maybe I can say my dream routine. Sometimes, it totally different from this. I guess with 1 year old toddler we just can't plan.

615am - Wakes up, pray, read Quran
625am - Prepare my daughter's stuff (i.e. heat up her food, pack her lunch bag, pack her milk, pack my pump and storage bottle)
640am - Drink oat+milk
645am - Take bath
655am - Breastfeed my daughter
710am - Get dressed
725am - Go out from the house
735am - Send my daughter to babysitter's house and drive off to work

830am-530pm-Work

530pm - Rush back home
630pm - Pick up my daughter at babysitter's house
640pm - Reach home, turn on the TV for my daughter so she will be distracted while I'm doing some work, take out everything from my daughter's beg (dirty clothes into the washing machine, lunch bag and milk), take out frozen chicken from freezer
650pm - Breastfeed my daughter
705pm - Take bath, pray, read Quran
730pm - On the washing machine, pack my daughter's clothes to nursery
745pm - Prepare item for my daughter's lunch
750pm - Dinner time for my daughter (usually she will take 0.5 hour to finish her food)
800pm - Cook my daughter's lunch for tomorrow (while I cook, I feed her dinner too. And her food is usually porridge)
830pm - Done cooking. Let the food get cold a bit. Play with my daughter.
900pm - Stores my daughter's lunch in the fridge and wash the pot. My husband comes home and bring dinner.
915pm - Bring my daughter to sleep
1015pm - Yey she finally sleep. Iron clothes for tomorrow and fold the clothes
1115pm - Pray and go to sleep

My husband washes my daughter's bottle and hang the washed clothes. Even he helps me a bit, I still feel so tired at the end of the day. So usually while I put my daughter to sleep, I sleep too.

I always wonder what happens if I have more kids? Only Allah knows. (T_T)

I think I am so lucky to have my husband helping me with some chores. But sometimes, he will make mess in the house too. He likes to put things everywhere. They are such an eyesore and can really make me explode. Sigh.

I hope everyday will be better than yesterday. I also hope I don't get tension so easily and loss my cool. Yesterday I scolded my daughter because she kept moving while i changed her diaper. After I scolded her, she didn't move. Looks like she already understand. I really need to be careful with my action after this. I feel so regret of what happen yesterday (T_T).

O Allah, please easy my journey.

Till then, Assalamualaikum

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Overnight in the Hospital After Deliver

My baby will turn 1 in 2 weeks and yet I want to write a post about my experience after delivering. Haha. Alright, after I delivered, I stayed at the hospital for one night since I delivered at 630 pm and I guessed it was a hospital procedure so that they can monitor both mom's and baby's condition.

I delivered in goverment hospital in Manjung and there was no private wing or such. Everyone was treated the same. Being a first time mommy, I was so scared. I didn't know how to handle baby and my mom wasn't in the hospital to accompany me. (Mind you, baby stayed with mom all the time). Of course my husband couldn't too. Men was not allowed. It was all on myself alone. It was so scary. But people around me were like that too. So independent but yeah they were not a first time mommy. So I kept an eye closely of what they were doing. Okay change baby diapers, cuddle baby, breastfeed baby, change pad, went to toilet to clean up yourself. But one thing I didn't know was I need to change my baby's clothes. She was still wrapped in towel okay. OMG. Whenever I think about it, I felt so sad. I just change my baby's clothes when the nurse came and it was 5 am. Imagine, my baby was born around 630 pm. Grr. My mom and husband should knew this. I just gave birth. People said when you gave birth, you tend to forget things.  It was a terrible experience for me to overnight in the hospital. 

Other than that, we also need to get our own clean clothes at the counter. The counter was quite far and I just gave birth and I just got cut and stitched down there, so it was difficult to walk and I was still tired. No one told me about this, if they did, I will not give birth in government hospital in the first place. I guess I wasn't that strong. Hihi. Since I didn't have the energy to go to the counter, I just wore my own clean clothes. When the nurse came and ask, I just said I didn't have the energy to walk. Yeah, whatever. 

I also didn't wear my socks. I was so blur, you know. I also didn't know how to wear kain so it kept loose, it was so annoying haha. I also didn't eat so much. It was not good alright, if you want to breastfeed your baby, you need to eat a lot. 

Other than the above, everything else was quite okay. I thought overnight in the hospital will be so scary but it wasn't. Other patients were so busy went back and forth to toilet, looking for something in their bag, eat, breastfeed and a lot more. 

At 6 am, the nurse came and said they need to check my stitched. Okay that time I already have some energy, so I walked to the room. Wah, this room is so cold! I was so scared when the nurse checked it. Because the thought to widely open my leg. Erk. But the examination was quite brief and I was so relieved when its over. 

At 7 am, the doctor came to examine my blood pressure and also baby's condition. Everything was in good condition. Nothing to worry. He also explain about birth control, bla, bla. Oh come on. I just gave birth and I didn't sleep last night. I couldn't focus to what you were saying. It just at the end he asked me, so which birth control you want? I was so blur, I just said pil. Haha. Then he said if you choose pil, you should never forget to take it everyday. Okay whatever. I never take pil anyway, haha.

After the doctor finished examining, they took my baby to be bathed. They took all babies together and in the meantime they said I could take the time to take a bath myself. Oh come on, I was so tired I didn't have the energy to take a bath. And with the cold water in the bathroom. Nope! So I waited until my baby came. One by one babies came back to their mom. Eh, where's my baby. She was before that baby? My baby was the last. I didn't know why. Was it because I didn't clean her up a bit at night? I don't know. 

After that, another doctor came and gave Hep B injection to my baby. She cried but only briefly. Such a strong baby. Hihi.

So I waited and waited wondering when can we discharge. My husband came in the morning too. He gave me food, it was bread if I'm not mistaken. Turned out my mom said I wasn't suppose to eat bread. Haha. 

Most of the patients in my area discharged after lunch but not me. I forgot why. Oh yes, I guess it was due to the quantity of my pee was not enough. Erh, I should drink a lot or perhaps maybe I should just lie. Haha. 

Then after the quantity of my pee was sufficient, the nurse came and said yes you can discharge at 5pm. Wah I was so excited, I took a bath, wore my go to home properly, make sure my baby is in good condition. Suddenly the nurse came to check my baby. She wanted to know whether my baby pee and poop normally. She checked the diapers but it was not wet. Only had poops. What??

Every half an hour they came to check but the diapers was still not wet. At 4 pm, one nurse came and brought my baby to the counter. I was so scared what they gonna do. Turned out, they put the wet tissue on my baby's flower. Played it there until she peed! Thank goodness. 

Then we went home,

Hehe. 

Such a long story. 

Okay so what is the lesson learnt here?

1. Maternity pad is not good, so thick and doesn't have wings. Easily can get leak. Just use overnight pads with wing.

2. Remember to change pads every 2 hours. 

3. Please please buy disposable panties. Don't waste your time and energy to wash your dirty panties.

3. Don't forget your socks and please wear it right after you deliver.

4. Wash your down there with salt water even after you deliver. Remember to bring salt. 

5. Drink, drink, drink plenty of water.

6. Eat, eat, eat a lot.

7. Breastfeed your baby every 2 hours and not 4 hours.

8. Change your baby's clothes, don't let the baby just wrapped in towel. Haihh.

9. Please take bath after you deliver but if its too late, take the bath in the early morning so that you will feel refreshed.

10. Deliver in the PRIVATE hospital.

Haha. The last point I need it so much. I need someone to take care of the baby while I recovering.

Okay, till then. Assalamualaikum.

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End of Working in Here

Yup, I will end my working period in my current company. The reason? Because this company is closing. Tsk. tsk. But the good news is I already got other job which is much better (I hope) and of course higher salary. And the location of the new company is still close to my house. Alhamdulillah, praise to Allah s.w.t. for making everything easy for me.

I stay at my current company for almost 2 years and 10 months. I was from semiconductor industry previously and with zero experience, my boss accepted me to work in the company and Alhamdulillah I must say I've gained a lot of knowledge in the safety field.  Working in this company have taught me about being a better human too. My boss is a very good boss. He tolerated with the employee a lot of things. He always put himself in our shoes. So its easier, if we had anything we could just come to him and spoke our mind. For me, this is a good example of a good boss. But still we respected him and of course there is boundary between boss and employee.

But the good thing is, he still gonna be my boss in my new company. Haha. Yes, I got the new position because of my boss. So I guess not much gonna change in the new company. I still report to the same person. I believe it will be easier too because if anything I can just ask my boss.

Working in my current company was not much stress. I go to work on time and go back home on time. Before I got pregnant, I also went travel to client's office too. But over the time I think things got so easy and sometimes I felt bored. So I hope moving to a new company can present me with new challenge and the excitement in safety field can be felt again. Amin.

Good bye.

Assalamualaikum.

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Covering Your Aurah

It was last Ramadhan when it happened. I prayed to Allah with the hope I can cover my aurah completely and Alhamdulillah Allah s.w.t granted it. It happened when that morning I felt so incomplete, so lost like something was missing. And with the case of Palestinian in Palestine made me felt so scared. Anytime Allah s.w.t can take my life and when it happens, am I ready to die?

So I decided to cover my aurah completely. Yes, before this I wore hijab too but I wore tight clothes as well. Skinny jeans, figure hugging blouse and transparent hijab. I asked my husband what he thinks of it and he supported me. He said, he is happier if I cover my aurah and asked me to go for it.

So the next day, I wore loose clothes and then slowly wore handsock and sock.

Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah for opening my heart to hijrah.

But of course by covering my aurah, I also need to change into being a better muslim. So I slowly read more Al-Quran, read the translation to get better understanding of Islam, perform solat earlier (Subuh is so difficult (T_T)), perform Dhuha, have good relationships with human (husband especially), and a lot more.

Having said that, its not easy to istiqamah. Everyday is a struggle for me. I really hope I can be a better a muslim and of course ready to be taken by Allah anytime. Amin.

Goodbye, Assalamualaikum.

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Human

Recently I encountered a situation where I learnt human's relationship is so fragile. One small thing can actually destroy a relationship or maybe relationships. So it is very important to be careful of how you think, talk or even type. Other than that, I also learn that:

1) Don't take side when there is argument between people around you. Even you mean good, when you take side and blame people, you actually make it worse. Be neutral.

2) Don't be too sensitive when people write or say something. It might not be about you. But if you believe it is, be extra careful with this kind of people.

3) Don't help people too much . Just give help once in a while but suddenly if you have trouble and they don't help, recognize this type of people and stay away. They might just use you when they are in trouble. 

4) Don't give advice to people who are too arrogant to accept advice. When this type of people in trouble, just save your time, no need to give advice. Just let them be, they set the boundary themselves.

5) Don't tell your personal problem with your partner to other people. Other people might spread your story or worst, use it against you. Just keep it personal (unless it is a domestic violence, this one needs help pronto!)

6) Set boundary with people. You don't have to be so close with people. Don't tell people everything and don't be offended when people don't share something with you.

7) People may not like you, it's ok. You don't like everyone too. So don't keep it in the heart. 

8) Learn to be independent. This is very important. I need to learn this too. We never know what gonna happen in the future. So able to be independent is a very good advantage. This is one of the reasons why I want to stay working even I like being a stay at home mom. Working has taught me a lot of things like earning my own money, management skill, communication with many kind of people, social life and spiritual. 

9) People will sometime make you feel down but just assume it is one of those days. It is not life if everyday is a good day. But if people mistreats you, wait 24 hours before you act. 

10) Always treat people nicely. Even people will not always treat you nicely. Because the way you behave is not because of other people but because of yourself. Usually before I sleep, I will review what I did that day. If I did something bad (anything), I will feel terrible and demotivated. So really, at the end its about how you feel about yourself. Do good to feel good.

So what is the conclusion about my post here? It's simple. Do good to people, be careful with people and always think 7 steps ahead when you do something. Nowadays, one step ahead is just not enough.

Good luck, Assalamualaikum.

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Conquer

My baby just turned 7 months last Friday. So far she can slowly move forward and started to lift up her back. She's getting ready to crawl yey!  All this while she's been sleeping sharing bed with us. Before I gave birth, my husband and I wanted to put her in the cot after I finish my confinement. But when that moment arrived, I just couldn't do it. She was so little and what if something happen and I can't respond quickly? That was my thought. I even cried after 10 minutes putting her inside the cot. Haha. Mom's syndrome.

So at the end we shared the bed. And I still don't regret sharing bed. I can cuddle her and kiss her whenever I want. And of course so easy to breastfeed too.

However sometimes she just like to conquer my space too.

So now where should Mama sleeps?

Ok bye,

Till then, Assalamualaikum.

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Short Getaway to Cameron Highland

It was an impromptu plan. We made the plan to go to Cameron Highland on Friday evening! We didn't have any budget for holiday actually but the feeling for holiday was always there. So I just asked my husband can we go to Cameron this weekend and he said yes! That night husband quickly booked our hotel, Heritage Hotel through Agoda.com. We stayed in Cameron for only one night. Very short getaway huh? Hee.

We moved from our house around 730 am. Quite early so that we can avoid the traffic. And yes alhamdulillah around 1100 am we already arrived at Tanah Rata, Cameron Highland. Some tip for those who want to go there and bring baby, make sure your baby sleep before you go through the zig zag road to Tanah Rata. It was so dizzy driving through this road. Or maybe you can use alternative road through Simpang Pulai. Trust me, it helped a lot.

Upon arriving, we had our lunch at Restoran Rasa Sayang which located on the way to Brinchang from Tanah Rata. While waiting for 300 pm for hotel check in, we killed some time in the Cactus Valley and the nearby Strawberry Farm.

Sadly the flowers there were not the same like before. Wilted flowers, some were not even there anymore. Sigh. So we didn't take a lot of picture in here.

After that, we went to Pasar Brinchang. Aisyah was on sleepy mode so husband went out alone to buy some strawberry dipped chocolate while mommy took care of Aisyah.

Then we went to check in our hotel. The check in process was quite fast, it just that the Deluxe room we booked was full so they changed into Family room which had two queen size.

The thing we hated the most about this room was it didn't have 3g line. It was so difficult since we need to search for best place to eat and upload our picture in instagram. Pftt. Hubby at the end went to the lobby to search for place to eat. If Heritage Cameron happen to read this, our room is 253. Forgot to fill in the survey form before we leave that day. Hehe.

That night we ate steambot at a restaurant nearby our hotel, Fern Nyonya Restaurant. This restaurant has good reviews from blogger. At first we thought this restaurant is non-halal. Turned out it's halal and a lot of muslim went there to eat. Not sure about the halal certification though. Please call the restaurant first if you need more assurance. Worry not, the owner and worker are nice.

Selfie before we went for steambot

Nyum nyum

It was RM20/pax if you select tomyam and soup. Quite reasonable and of course you can have best of both world, so we chose this. We enjoyed the food so much. Hubby really liked the tomyam and Aisyah was well behaved. Alhamdulillah.

The next day we woke up around 730 am, played with Aisyah in the bath tub and went to breakfast at the hotel. The food was good. I had coco crunch, fried rice, muffin and fruit. Haha! So much for breakfast huh? Worry not, I had it in small portion only.

After check out we went to Mardi to take picture with flowers. But again, there wasn't much flower. Sigh. We just took like 15 minutes in here. Or maybe we didn't appreciate the flower so much? Haha.

Aisyah in sleepy mode.

Then we went back to Big Red Strawberry Farm to satisfy my husband's craving to Strawberry dipped chocolate. We parked all the way up on the hill and we had to carefully walk down to go to the Strawberry Cafe.

strawberry sundae and chocolate strawberry, RM30.90 in total

The chocolate tasted so good but Aisyah was so cranky, we couldn't enjoy tasting it so much and needed to rush back to car. Apparently she pooped and was so sleepy. Once the car moved, she slept. Kesian my princess. Since Aisyah was sleeping, we quickly decided to go back.

Ok that's it.

Our short getaway.

Lesson learnt? Buy monopod!

Hehe.

Ok bye. Assalamualaikum.

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Chicken Pox

My husband just got chicken pox last Thursday. On Wednesday, he came home late around 12am and looked so exhausted. Well he needed to submit his PID thats why he came home so late. So the next day he took leave and stayed at home. I checked his temperature in the morning and it was below the fever temperature.

But when afternoon came, his temperature roses up to 38.1 deg C. Quite high. That time we didn't know he had chicken pox. We only know he had it when he wanted to take bath during Magrib. Got red spots all over his body. So he went alone to clinic. Poor hubby. I was so tired that night couldn't help to bring him to the clinic (it was my first day of period). He even bought us dinner and also coconut drink for himself.

So the next day, the rashes became a lot. He even had one pustule already popped. So fast huh? People said it was due to coconut drink. Coconut drink helps the rash to quickly became pustule and umbilication. Go google the image. It was scary to put the images here.

His fever also went down a bit that day. But during afternoon suddenly it went up back. The fluctuated temperature went on about 2 days. His medication runs out on Saturday but the clinic was closed. So he went to other clinic.

Okay here the annoying story about the other clinic. This doctor ONLY WANT MONEY. He didn't give any advice to my husband. My husband came in, told the doctor what happened, the doctor wrote down the medication and ask "DAH?" to my husband. My husband said something something. And the doctor again said "DAH?". NO ADVICE OR ANYTHING. The worst doctor ever. I'd been to this clinic and met the doctor before and yes, he did treated me the same way like he treated my husband. So I guessed it wasn't a one time occasion. The doctor is like that. Sorry can't reveal the clinic name here. I just hope the doctor realize his mistake and quickly change. Huh!

Continue back to the story of chicken pox.

So the next morning my husband's fever gone and the fever didn't come back until now. Now he just having the pustules pop every now and then. I guess he's getting better. Alhamdulillah.

Since I have baby, what kind of precaution I did in order to make sure Aisyah doesn't get infected?

Not much!

Sigh.

I washed the bedsheet and cushion touched by my husband, prepared another room for my husband (sleep in different room), husband can't touch Aisyah at all, husband sit on different sofa, whenever I touched husband I make sure I washed my hands.

Only that.

I hope Aisyah will not get infected but if she does, what to do right? I just need to take care of her and be patient.

Ok till then. Assalamualaikum.

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Unstable Routine

Being a new mommy is quite difficult. I don't think I have settled down yet. My schedule keeps on changing everyday. I just have to adapt to new environment every single day I guess? Depending on how my baby, Aisyah's sleeping schedule.

And did I tell you I keep missing my Subuh prayer?

Sigh.

Will try my best to be more discipline especially waking up on time for Subuh prayer.

Here I share a little bit of what my schedule looks like.

630 am : wake up, do my Subuh prayer, pump one side of the breast
715 am : pack expressed breast milk (ebm) for baby sitter's house
730 am : nursing Aisyah
800 am : get ready for work, take supplement
825 am : send Aisyah to baby sitter's house

900 am : arrive at the office, have breakfast (oat biscuit and horlicks)
 ** work **
1000 am : pump
** work **
1230 pm : lunch
130 pm : pump
** work **
430 pm : tea break (oat biscuit and horlicks)
500 pm : pump
600 pm : go home

* breastfeeding mommy need to have fixed schedule for pumping

700 pm : pick up Aisyah from baby sitter's house
715 pm : arrive at home, store excess ebm into chiller, take bath, pray and nursing Aisyah
800 pm : washed ebm bottles and pack Aisyah's stuff for the next day
830 pm : wash clothes
900 pm : dinner (usually my husband buy the dinner, I don't want to be outside during Maghrib)
915 pm : fold clothes
1000 pm : hang washed clothes
1030 pm : iron outfit for tomorrow
1100 pm : sleeping time

In between Aisyah will wake up, do what she do best, playing, crying, watching tv but all will be entertained by my husband. What I do is just feed her. Hee.

I hope my baby sleeping routine will follow us adult. Of course not the 7 hours sleeping. But sleeps at night. Just wake up for her feed. These days she woke up at night from 900pm to 300am, sometimes from 1100pm to 400am.We couldn't get enough sleep, that's explains why we always missed the Subuh prayer and sometimes late to work.

Sigh.

Oh Aisyah sayang, please la sleeps at night. We beg you. Please let mama and ayah have enough sleep so that we can wake up together feeling fresh and happy.

yes, like this sayang.

Bye.

Assalamualaikum.

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Sunny Monday

For the past few days, the weather had been so hot. I always became sweaty especially during sleeping. Whenever I woke up, there will be sweat patch around my tshirt neck. Sometimes, I just wore my undergarment while sleeping. I really couldn't stand the heat.

Is it a hormon thing or is it because of the weather? There was no rain for one week already. Sigh.

Rain, please come, I need you!

Today, I will chop my hair and add additional fan in the bedroom. Hope the heat will subside a bit.

Bye people, lets pray the rain will come today!

Assalamualaikum.

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This is Killing Me

Its Monday and on my hand now, there is no task. Everything need to wait for the client. I already spent my morning to read all related articles in the forum. So now I am so free and feel so boring. I came to work so determined to do a good job and I am so afraid now I will feel so unmotivated when the time arrives to go home.

Don't get me wrong. I love my job. I get to learn a lot about my field of interest. But this, when I don't have anything to do, I will get dizzy and feel a lil bit unmotivated. Another reason of being unmotivated? My colleagues are on holiday and I'm the only in my department today. It's killing me.

I need a good discussion, a motivated environment and a task, of course.

So please! Monday be good to me!

Bye.

Till then. Assalamualaikum.

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